It is always the religious who argue against gay marriage. And I have a big problem with that. I can’t go into the why right now, I should be studying. But here is an email response I wrote that summed up the issue as I see it, as simply as I could, from a Catholic perspective (and therefore biased against the topic in the first place). I only talked about gay marriage. I can talk about the issues around someone being gay later and will do so when I get a chance….
“I have about ten minutes to respond, but I’ll try….
Marriage as understood within the Church is as between a man and a woman. I get that. I know where the Church stands. But our government is not a Catholic institution. The issue is whether there should be legal means in this country for a gay person to share rights and interests with their lifelong partner. I think there should be a means, and whether we call it marriage or not, it would legally be indistinguishable (sacramentally, obviously the two are worlds apart and should be)…
One frequently quoted mantra of conservative thought, addressed below by [someone], is ‘where do we draw the line if we let a girl marry a girl or boy a boy? Soon people will be able to marry in groups; soon people will be able to marry animals, etc. etc.’ This, from a scientific point of view, is a nonissue. The interest a gay person has in another member of their sex is biologically based (Examples? Differences in the size of the anterior commisure, superchiasmatic nucleus, and interstitial nucleus of the anterior hypothalamus between gays and straights. Differences in brain chemistry on terms of testosterone during developmental stages in life between gays and straights. Differences in the proteins in the womb after a male is born vs. after a female is born in gays and straights. Genetic heritability of ‘gay genes’ also show this. I guess psychology did do me some good huh?). If you disagree with the statement that homosexuality is biologically based, you are SEVERELY misinformed about what it is to be gay and should go back to school and rethink your life….
Back on point, given that there is a biological basis for being gay, to discriminate against gays is plainly and simply wrong. There is no comparable scenario for ‘group marriage,’ ‘animal marriage’ or anything of that sort. This argument is a simple fallacious extension of being gay to realms that actually have no normative biological basis (Besides it being disgustingly offensive to compare a guy marrying a guy to a guy marrying a dog or animal. And you claim acceptance and equality of God’s people while making comparisons like that? Shame on you.)…
Another issue is that calling gay people’s relationship ‘marriage’ violates what marriage is, a sanctified relationship given to a man and a woman’s exclusive lifelong commitment to one another. But that is only what marriage is in the Catholic faith. Two things come to mind about this: (1) divorce’s widespread effects on marriage have already tainted marriage from the secular perspective and therefore from a secular perspective marriage is not recognized by the Church anyway, and (2) this is like saying Protestant churches cannot celebrate their own celebratory version of receiving symbolic forms of Christ’s blood and flesh, because to do so would undermine the value of the true Eucharist. As the Church now widely realizes, to restrict Protestant churches from having their imitation is just stupid. They have the right to celebrate however they want, the Catholic Church simply will not recognize these forms of the sharing of Christ as the Eucharist, a sacrament. The same goes for gay marriage. They can go ahead and have rights to be married, the Church doesn’t have to be offended, it just has to understand that it is not a sacrament and from a religious perspective it is only an imitation. There is no reason that gays shouldn’t have rights like Protestants (unfortunately, haha) have rights. We Catholics do not own the world and there is a serious difference between something that is legally wrong and morally wrong. Perhaps you think it is morally wrong for gays to be married. That doesn’t mean they should not have equal rights under the law. It is legally wrong for them not to, plain and simple. Fine, call it frolicky-life-love and not marriage, but the concept should be indistinguishable from legal marriage.
[Using the Bible to justify the outlawing of gay marriage is also a mistake. The Bible also outlaws the eating of shrimp, the wearing of certain non-cotton blends, and any work on Saturday. I don’t see these Bible-thumping judgemental bastards worrying about those things…
If you need more justification that the Bible is and should not be the source of this, let me know. I have plenty of anti-‘Sola Scriptura’ armor-peircing rounds (Luther is an idiot, for instance).]*
Call me a liberal (no, actually don’t unless you want to lose an eye), but gays who pledge themselves in monogamous, legitimate relationships deserve the same rights as straight married people.”