No More Excuses
This is the video that is anti-choice, woman-killing, and hatefully bigoted?:
Uhhhhhhhh…. Rage. Rage. Rage!
Youtube comment:
“This is a misleading commercial, produced by one of the most hateful and divisive organizations in the U.S. Everyone, unless they are mentally ill, is focused on their family; we don’t need an organization that would like to turn the U.S. into a Christian theocracy, comparable to the tyrannical state of Saudi Arabia, telling us to focus on the family. Focus on the Family is a misogynistic, extreme right wing, Christian organization that uses a ruse like this ad to make it seem more moderate.”
-heathdwatts
If you think the rage from this benign ad was crazy, can you imagine if they would have tried to play this pro-life ad from the 1986 Super Bowl?:
Might think the sky is falling by now…
In other, related news:
- A bit more on the spectacle from GetReligion…
- I am sure we (I) will hear a lot about the sexism of the ads during the game. Dividing people by sex is SO OFFENSIVE! Like this one. If you obey your wife (or claim that she ever commands you to do something), you are sexist, according to Feministing. I thought it was that if your wife obeys you, you’re sexist. Make up your mind… But maybe that is a false dichotomy. I guess sexist is mentioning the words woman or man, at all, ever. Either that or I am missing something. Ahhhh, the oversensitivity of insecure individuals… You will probably not hear a word in protest (unless you are friends with an idiot) of how commercials love to portray men as incompetent, lazy, or dumb. No double standards here… Why don’t we try talking about sexism in portraying women in one light – as sex objects. Oh, that’s because that type of commercial “empowers” women. I forgot for a second where our values lie… (/sarcasm)
- Powerful interfaith work against abortion has not and will not be stopped.
Re: Bullet-point #2:
Marriages that are purely complimentarian don't seem usually to fully exist, and if they're being practiced with Love it won't always look it, because that will usually require that the husband actually not be fully in charge of everything; oddly enough a complimentarian marriage done in a Catholic framework, in almost any circumstance, immediately becomes not-extremely-complimentarian.
By contrast, egalitarian marriage doesn't really exist either. One of those people will always have more power than the other in some area or another; the persons might submit to each other in nuanced and distinct ways, but they still submit–and it seems like nobody having any authority ever is the real extreme of egalitarianism. (And really, if neither partner had any authority for anything at all, it wouldn't even be Christian marriage; I'd barely even call that a marriage, because then they wouldn't even have the authority to say "don't leave me." Not that that particular authority is unconditional, but you get the idea.
Sorry, that rant's been waiting inside of me for awhile and you triggered it.
I see your rant and raise you one rant.
I agree completely, and have been thinking about this often as well. Implicit in marriage, as well as any loving relationship, is obedience – the most under-appreciated virtue of our times. I must be obedient to my wife in that I submit to her and her alone on terms of sexual fidelity, marital commitment, and child-rearing responsibilities. She must do the same to me. And these are the least, the VERY LEAST of those things which I mist submit to in order to have a healthy marriage. What many of these feminist rants seem to forget is self-forgetful love (see Kreeft's linked post below) and the idea that selflessness is priority one in relationships. Instead of love or selflessness, the goal therefore becomes "What can I get out of this?" "In what ways am I being shafted in responsibility?" "How can I resist my spouse pulling a fast one on me?" In relationships, as you say, egalitarianism should not be low on the goals that a relationship seeks to fulfill, rather it does not even enter the mind of one truly in search of love.
Marriage is hard work. The divorce rate is high, and I suspect that much of that has to do with the selfishness that pervades our me-first mindset. The definition of love in secular society has moved on from "willing the best for the other" to "willing the best for myself such that I will stay in this relationship." I am not saying one should not examine their relationships and ensure they are the best fit for the person, but selfish "fulfillment" cannot be the primary goal, lest one edge both people toward the edge of self-destruction.
"Shoulder-to-shoulder facing God" always seemed the appropriate marriage theme to me, and it is a maxim most everyone forgets now, in exchange for ideas like "facing each other," "facing a mirror," or "facing Mammon." Somehow, true love must be recaptured if we wish to save marriage…